It’s natural to want to know all about the loss and all about how our grieving friend is doing, but let’s see how that might make them feel.
I found questions about the details of my loss to be very distressing. It made me re-feel the trauma of losing my child all over again. Specific questions about would I like this, or could they do that for me, those were so helpful. I didn't have to figure out anything, just answer yes or no.