Author Dana Lacy Amarisa talks about the Be a Bridge project and how it started

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The Author

What I Did

Our Mission

Surviving the loss of my daughter, then my dad, and then my son in a 20-month period caused me to quickly develop a very personal relationship with just about every version of the worst thing we can say to a grieving friend. Before these losses changed my life, I was the person trying to figure out what to say and do to help a grieving friend. And, I said many of those same hurtful condolences! After my losses, I saw how painful most of them were. It seemed like I lived on the other side of a giant but invisible canyon from my friends and family, and none of us knew how to bridge it.

I decided to look into this dilemma. For the better part of 15 years I conducted formal and informal interviews with grievers and their support people to see what worked for them and why. I wrote and re-wrote a handy little Pocket Guide Book, a Blog, and created a Conversation room where we can meet and talk about how to help instead of hurt our grieving friend.

Be A Bridge! Learn to say Be A Bridge Condolences to connect with your grieving friend.

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All opinions expressed here are those of the person who gave them and should not be used in place of the help of a trained psychologist or other helping professional. If you are depressed or suicidal, please reach out to one of the help hotlines below. (I’ve been depressed and got help for it; one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. It’s the hardest and easiest call you can make.)

National Hopeline Network – 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
National Youth Crisis Hotline – 1-800-448-4663
The Samaritans – 877-870-4673 (HOPE)